Class 2: Kavod Shabbat and Candle Lighting

[Marsha1]

I found it interesting that, although we generally follow Beit Hillel, on the issue of when in the week we start to focus on Shabbat, it is considered proper to follow the middah of Shammai, that is, to be thinking about Shabbat everytime we see something early in the week that could be nice to have for Shabbat and to always be saving our choicest foods for Shabbat, ie. Shabbat is truly on our mind all week.  I do this but had no idea this was from Shammai, and that Hillel did something quite different, with his middah of bitachon, always assuming that Hashem would provide for him for Shabbat.

I'm still somewhat confused regarding the practical applications of the machloket regarding the actual mitzvah of candle lighting being either oneg or kavod or both.  ie. if it's oneg, then it would be okay for my husband to light the candles (ie. if I'm running late) and for me to bless them later; on the other hand, if it's kavod, I would certainly have to be the one to light them and to light them on time or, perhaps, very early and then take on Shabbat, later, at the proper time.  I'm not sure either of these are okay, generally speaking. If it's both, I myself would be required to light them and not a shaliach, before Shabbat, and, of course, to ensure we see them and enjoy them at the time of kiddush and our meal.  It seems, then, as if we follow the idea that it's both and are not leaning more to one than the other...but do some people follow one argument more than the other and light (or not) accordingly?

Also, the issue of kavod or oneg is very important then, regarding candle lighting on Yom Tov.  If kavod is the mitzvah, in addition to oneg, the Yom Tov candles must be lit prior to the beginning of Yom Tov (first day) and not "anytime", from a pre-existing light; I was not aware of this.   

On a completely different note, it would be very helpful to have some sources given, particularly with some of the key Hebrew phrases that are mentioned; I find it hard to figure out just what the words are and know I would understand more fully if I could see it in print.