Class 3: Candle lighting as Kabbalat Shabbat

[Marsha1]

I liked the discussion of whether one can light a second candle using the flame from a first candle just lit; depending on whether it is a question of kavod or oneg, it is not proper (for kavod) but okay (for oneg).  Every week, when I light candles and my match goes out before I can light all the candles, I wonder if I should be lighting a second match or if I can light from an already-lit candle.  The class seemed to suggest that lighting from one of the candles I just lit is perfectly acceptable.  (Phew!)  I used to use a lighter--till it ran out of butane and have not yet got around to getting another--I'm assuming this would eliminate this problem altogether.

The discussion of what to do when lighting in a hotel or hospital--that electricity is acceptable (though better with a candle, as well, having the electric light in mind)--was very useful (provided the lights are first turned off and then turned on again, lichvod Shabbat).

I liked the possible reason given for lighting an extra candle when a child is born; both of my children were born by C-section and I got home from the hospital for Shabbat but, questionably, by candle-lighting time, through no fault of my own; perhaps, now, my lighting of additional candles for each is really my fine!! (although I generally prefer to think of it as having more light in my house with each child!)

I'm a little confused regarding the differences in candle lighting as kabbalat Shabbat for men or women; if we say that, for women, candle lighting starts Shabbat because of the bracha, the same should be true for men, if they make a bracha.  I'm assuming that is the reason for the tnai but why would it be more acceptable for a man to make a tnai on any Shabbat and a woman should limit it to only very special occasions with very good reasons?

I am not familiar with all of the sources/names quoted, such as Bahag, Maharan or Maharam (I have no idea which), Baalos Gedolos (?), and the many others that I missed because I simply could not make out the names at all; it would be very useful if these could be written down somewhere, or spelled out, and a bit of context given to their names, with regards to their authority, the century they lived in and where, etc.