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« on: March 24, 2008, 01:06:15 PM »

A human judge cannot possibly consider all of the effects that may result from his limited view of justice in any situation. This is something only G-d is capable of doing.

Therefore, in a different light, we must also realize that we cannot judge anyone. As it says in Pirkei Avos (2:4): “Don’t judge your friend until you are in his place.” One will never be in their friend’s place, dealing with the specific factors in their personal situation.

Give two examples of how we can be dan l’kaf zechus (judge a person favorably) and apply this message in our own life, in order to pursue peace in Klal Yisrael.

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« Reply #1 on: March 30, 2008, 07:20:19 PM »

two ways to judge someone favorably when the action is unquestionably wrong:
1)  there are 2 factors in any misdeed - the person, and the action. It's easy to conclude that an action is wrong, but it's impossible to judge the person - only Hashem can do that, bc only He Knows the person's entire psychological make-up and personal history.
2) Even if you can't figure out a way to judge the person favorably, you can avoid judging at all, by reminding yourself that it's impossible to know all the myriad details involved, and since you're lacking information, you don't have the data to judge.
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« Reply #2 on: April 02, 2008, 09:28:46 PM »

It's important to remember that not only will you never be exactly in his place, but you never have been. Some people react to a lifetime of pain by doing well and overcoming, others sink-in and become part of it, and still others become a driving force of it choosing to conquer the source by becoming it. Perhaps all without knowing it. You never know at what point someone realized that what they are doing is harmful to the klal and to themselves.

Often times you didn't hear right or you misunderstood. And more times than I think we realize even if your hearing first hand information it's a misunderstanding b/t the original people involved in the issue. I think this is a big factor in why Aaron could be successful in brining peace b/t people and they didn't fall immediately back into the same fight is b/c they were able to clear their minds to calmly speak (read: communicate accurately) to each other.

On some level you have to make a judgment to the person and adjust the place in your life. You should not continue as much an intimate trusting relationship w/someone who has proven themselves unstable.
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