Orthodox jewish bosses, etiquette and the business place

[LaNita]

I have a question that concerns me deeply.

Do jewish people have a conscience?
Do they just do things to people and then don't care
about how they feel>?

Cause my ex-boss who is an Orthodoxed jew, made several
advances to me.
He didn't even announce that he was going to, he just did.

I found him quite handsome and dashing, beyond belief.

So, I knew I should stay away from him.
And he had too much money.

I prefer someone who is not caught up into materialistic things.

Anyway, I asked him to apologize for his actions.
He said he didn't have to explain them.

So, I figured he wanted to be with me.

Now he does, and my heart has gone out to him without
"MY" permission.
I don't even know him.

I know I'd have to convert to be with him.

I have studied a little bit about the Jewish religion,
and I'm thinking of converting.
I haven't been active in a church in a while.
I do believe that g-d is Love Energy.

I'm leaning towards the Jewish religion because I like all
the festivals and special ways they do things.

Until now, I hadn't realized it but I was born in a hospital called,
"Jewish Hospital" in St. Louis Mo.
My last name is "NOAH".
And I've always liked to read magazines from the back towards the
front.

I just need to do a little more research, but I've almost
made up my mind.
I'd have to convert to be with my friend.
I just hope I don't end up heartbroken again.
He seems like he's too good to be true.

But wasn't he wrong for approaching me like that on the job?

He didn't ask.

Am I wrong for asking him for an apology,
is this something all Jewish people do?

[Fraidi1]

Your question will be forwarded to one of our Rabbis and responded to as quickly as possible.

[Rabbi Hershel Reichman]

To LaNita,

I am greatly disturbed by the situation you described in your post.  Your ex-boss clearly violated Jewish Law (which prohibits physical contact with any woman other than immediate family members), so calling him Orthodox is a relative term that is not 100% accurate.

You were right in resisting his advances.  In terms of developing a relationship with him, as a Jew, he would only be able to marry you if you converted to Judaism, but Judaism frowns upon conversion solely for the sake of marriage.

If your interest in Judaism has been perked, and you would like to study Jewish belief and practice because you feel that this is the true path to serving G-d, you may be considered a candidate for conversion.  This is a long and difficult process, which involves months of study with an Orthodox Rabbi.

You may end up being disappointed after enduring a grueling process, so you might want to end your relationship with your former boss altogether.

Wishing you all the Best,

Rabbi Hershel Reichman

[LaNita]

Thank you very much.

I understand that Jewish living is not like what I'm used to,
however I've examined this quite a bit;
and even though I haven't made up my mind,
I do understand that it won't be easy if I decide to become Jewish.

I was already drawn to Judaism before I met my former boss,
and I was hoping to keep him as a teacher;
but other things occurred which strayed his mind away from the
teachings.

He said he couldn't teach me because I was sexually attracted to him.

But he's the one who caused this.
I wasn't trying to like him that way.

I am willing to go through whatever it is I have to go through to be
able to learn how I can help the planet in any way, G-d's way.

Having him as my husband would be something I'd have to figure out
I'd want to do after I get to know the real him.

I'm not there, because I'm not caught up with getting married;
however, I am caught up in trying to do what I can to help G-d, the Earth, and humanity in any, and Every way I can.

Thanks for your advice.
It's very much appreciated.