Parsha II class 1: Lech lecha - Inner Journey

[Moderator]

The class developed the theme of perfecting one's
     midot (character traits).  How does one identify the midot
     in oneself that are in need of improvement?  What would you tell
     someone who came to you asking for advice on how to properly
     channel one of the following middot?  1)  Impatience, 2) Laziness,
     3)  Pride  4) Exactitude

[Hadassa1]

I find that if you're aware and sensitive to it, you can get subtle messages from ppl who are closest to you and know you best. Or, you can ask your close friend/relative/etc in a non-confrontational way.  If your sincerity and desire to grow is evident, they might be more likely to be open and honest.

How can someone channel "exactitude"? Often, the negative aspect of this midah is a strict approach to other peoples' behavior. Instead, the person can channel the midah to be precise and "exact" regarding the halachos governing interactions with ppl (hilchos ben adam la'chaveiro).
     

[Edith1]

It is very hard to tell someone how to channel a negative trait unless you know them very well.  That being said, if someone has impatience they can use it to better themselves by trying to get as much out of a day as possible.  Not to be impatient with others, but to use it to improve their productivity.  They can be impatient with themselves.  They can use it to do the most they can to improve themselves in other areas and in doing acts of kindness.