Women's role in Marriage

[Miriam14]

Hello Mrs. Smiles,

Your Shiurim are an inspiration to my soul. I am therefor addressing this question to you, because I would like to hear your Torah perspective on this topic.

What is the role of a women in regards to her husband in marriage? Is it possible to tie the answer in with the idea that a person should be in the driver's seat of their life...?

Thank you very much for teaching Torah,

Miriam

[Tzippy2]

Hi Miriam,
 
We've forwarded your excellent question to Mrs. Smiles and hope to post her reply soon.

[Miriam14]

Thank you,

Miriam

[Shira Smiles]

Miriam,
Clearly this subject has a tremendous amount of depth and complexity, and can't be answered on one foot.
A woman is supposed to be an ezer Knegdo.  She is the supporting role that allows the confidence of the husband to be able to productive in this world.  Chazal tell us that "Isha Keshera Osa Retzon Ba'ala."  A proper woman listens to the will of her husband.  The Lubavitcher Rebbe aside fromt the literal explanation, adds that she is the one who is osah, makes her husband's will.  THIS is the driver's seat role without necessarily being in the driver seat.
I am prepared to discuss this further privately if you wish.  You may email contact@naaleh.com to get my personal email address.

Shira Smiles

[Devora1]

How does one create a husband's ratzon and how does that conflict with the concept of bechira-meaning a husband can choose to do bad in spite of the women's will to do good?

We see instances in Tenach where the wife was righteous but the husband was not..i.e. Avigail, Devora, Aishes Manoach,...?

Devora fashioned wicks for her husband to steer him on the right path...How can one implement a similar strategy in todays generation?

[Moderator]

we apologize for the late reply, your question has been forwarded to Mrs. Smiles, and we look forward to posting her response.